When you “feel” something, the first thing you should do is take a second to analysis why you are “feeling” the way you are. If you are feeling sad, happy, excited or reserved, remember that your environment is a contributing factor to your feelings. You have control of how you respond to your feelings.
A girl finally got her dream job and on her first day of work she felt excited. She was smiling and happy to see and meet her new co-workers. While getting ready to leave for the day, one of her new co-workers decided to voice her opinion about the new girl’s perceived happiness of working there. The co-worked made a rude remark in front of other co-works. The new girl started to feel anxiety and negativity, which made her question if she even belonged there. Instead of acting on the feelings, the new girl decided to say aloud to herself “I can do anything I put my mind to, I earned this position and I know that I have self-control.” Then the new girl turned to the co-worker whom said the rude remark and said “It was a pleasure to meet you, I look forward to working with you in the future.” The new girl walked to her car grinning with the understanding that she didn’t let her “feelings” control her, instead she decided to exercise her self-control over her own “feelings.”
We have the ability to be reactive in a negative way or a positive way. Be careful to not let “feelings” rule your life. You have the power of self-control.
You have the ability to “think yourself into a good mood, or a bad mood.” In my many professional experiences I have met people that have and express negative thoughts. Recently, I was contracted to work for a company where I was able to communication with many people. During this job many people “thought” they were not “good enough” and had terrible self-images.
My realization was that many people think the worst about themselves and have low hopes for their future. At times, being in sales is like being a people therapist … You get their entire story and they want a miracle from you with promises that a product will cure their hurt … But only GOD can do that.
While working this contracted job, I often found myself giving this advice:
True freedom is being able to self-evaluate without self judgment. Finding self-value in your individualism is priceless. We all have individual gifts from GOD, don’t compare your gifts to anyone else’s abilities. It is only by grace that GOD, who gives gifts can you grow and develop in yourself. Walk in your special grace. Allowing for others to determine your worth is like an adult getting mad at a child for being hungry, it is preventable. Know who you are and yourself value will increase.
All the Best,
How happy are you with your life? Your career? Your relationships? Your success? I have come to a realization that will change how and what I do for the rest of my life. I have realized that true happiness comes from being genuinely happy by removing selfishness from my life. You have the power to release “strong holds” on your life by taking a simple inventory of yourself. How often do you look to be a blessing or good to others? One of the quickest ways I have found to increase my happiness is to purposely look to be a blessing to others just because.
There are a number of ways to do this: Smiling and saying hello to a someone you don’t know, asking the checkout clerk “How are you doing today?” or simply waking up in the morning and choosing to think about all the people and blessings you are thankful for. It is time for all of us to remove selfishness from our lives and go back to the basics of happiness.
Try it and you will be surprised at how much your happiness will increase when you begin to recognize and remove selfishness from your everyday life. That is my two-cents on selfishness.
All the Best,
Attending the movies has become a deadly accordance in today’s society. You never know the state of mind of the person sitting next to you, behind you or walking into the movie theater. I have attended many movies at The Grove. This movie theater is located in a shopping plaza 8 miles from my home in Tampa, Fl. Yesterday afternoon while attending a movie with his wife, a man was fatally shot by another movie goer for using a cell phone during the previews of the movie. It is with a heavy heart that I realized that in this situation the one thing that could have assisted the situation almost immediately would have been the use of self-control.
The “Spirit” of self-control is a method of understanding and common sense. We as human beings have been given the “Spirit” of self-control and it is used to assist our experiences with enlightened minds. Self-control is not always easy, or the most popular thing to exercise. But, the learned use of self-control can assist many difficult situations, and prevent violent and deadly misunderstandings. That’s my two-cents on the situation.