Every year, we strive for new goals. How about striving for a new attitude? An attitude, not merely a positive attitude – but, a better one? Being positive is more than just a state of mind. Being positive is about our interactions with ourselves, others and with difficult situations. We’re often told to “stay positive,” but no one ever tells you how to stay positive. Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand that things are going to happen to you, good, bad, and indifferent. The ability to exercise self-control and realize that just because we fail or something negative happens to us, does not mean that we are bad people or that we have a bad experience entirely. Just as it is unhealthy to be Pollyannaish, it is equally unhealthy to be overly pessimistic. How do we balance the spectrum between being positive and being overwhelmed with life? The first step is to remember that there is something good in the situation that you can learn about yourself, others or how to handle the situation better in the future. The second part is to forgive yourself for being negative about a situation. The third part is to realize that your best is going to change from moment to moment. It comes with the realization that you are not a perfect being, none of us are. That is the beauty of life, we can do things differently and in a more positive aspect every time we engage or interact with the negative situation. Keep that in mind this new year, as you go into new challenges, new ventures, new relationships, new everything. Let’s be mindful of our emotional intelligence and our ability to control several aspects of a situation. Truth be told, you have more control over a situation than you think you do.
Reference: Bradberry, T. (2014). 3 Powerful Ways To Stay Positive. Retrieved 2019, from http://www.talentsmart.com/articles/3-Powerful-Ways-To-Stay-Positive-1120740708-p-1.html
How happy are you with your life? Your career? Your relationships? Your success? I have come to a realization that will change how and what I do for the rest of my life. I have realized that true happiness comes from being genuinely happy by removing selfishness from my life. You have the power to release “strong holds” on your life by taking a simple inventory of yourself. How often do you look to be a blessing or good to others? One of the quickest ways I have found to increase my happiness is to purposely look to be a blessing to others just because.
There are a number of ways to do this: Smiling and saying hello to a someone you don’t know, asking the checkout clerk “How are you doing today?” or simply waking up in the morning and choosing to think about all the people and blessings you are thankful for. It is time for all of us to remove selfishness from our lives and go back to the basics of happiness.
Try it and you will be surprised at how much your happiness will increase when you begin to recognize and remove selfishness from your everyday life. That is my two-cents on selfishness.
Being thankful is more than words. Being thankful is a state of mind and being. To be truly thankful is to be a blessing everywhere you go to everyone you know or see. You can be thankful for your trial(s) without having a immediate break thru, but in the knowing that your break through is coming is how where the thankfulness is. Making a mindful method for being thankful can be as simple as finding something to be thankful for in your moment i.e. being thankful for your good health, good wealth and overall goodness in your life. Instead of finding fault or error in the “moment” look for what you are thankful for in the moment. Finding ways to be thankful will improve your outlook on your circumstances and your life overall. Psalm 100 says, “Be thankful and say so!” Thanksgiving is a mindset; choose your thoughts carefully throughout the day.
Love is everything, love never fails
Love will always prevail
True love never dies, it only multiplies
Love is the one thing that takes no account
No matter how much you fret and pout
Love is the strength of anything good
Love has the ability to destroy all the bad, and see only good
With love, one must gain clarity
It is only love that gives no account to animosity
With love, you know and have all things
It is with deep, true, unconditional love that one has all things